The Princess Bride is on TV, and I'm watching it for the millionth time. Let me tell you why I love The Princess Bride.
Because it is the ultimate romance between Dominant Femme and Submissive Butch.
I could watch forever that bit at the start where Princess Buttercup orders Wesley the Farm Boy around a lot and he just says "As you wish". And she realises that he means "I love you". Then she realises she loves him too and lets him know- by ordering him to fetch a pitcher for her that is already hanging within hand's reach. (A pitcher- how nicely Freudian).
If you think of a two-dimensional chart where one dimension goes from Submissive to Dominant and is crossed by a dimension that goes from Femme to Butch. Anyone could appear in any of the four quadrants regardless of their gender or sexual orientation.
I've had fun over the years working out where different people appear on the chart- people I know and famous people.
NB: Submissive does not mean un-assertive. Any submissive person can be as empowered and assertive as anyone else. How they manifest that may look different to how a dominant person looks being empowered and assertive.
Let me think of some examples (and actually unless you know someone well, it's very hard to say so these are all arguable- except me of course!):
Dominant Femme women:
Dominant Butch women:
Submissive Femme women:
Submissive Butch women:
A tough one! It's sad that we don't have many of these tomboy types in the public eye (especially as they are my favorite type). Possibly Alex Parks of Fame Academy
Dominant Femme men:
Nick Cave (Maybe. I'm not sure on this- he may be closer to the cusp of Femme/Butch than some men).
Dominant Butch men:
Submissive Femme men:
Submissive Butch men:
I also think relationships tend to work better when one person is submissive and one dominant. The femme-butch thing is more a matter of preference I think, although probably most people would prefer a partner opposite to them on that scale as well.
Anyway, I'm going to go back and watch my film (which, BTW has some pleasing scenes where the submissive Farm Boy is tortured and rescued by the Princess etc., then he;s all weak and at her mercy in the royal bed). And the Mink DeVille theme song "Storybook Love": fab. I think I'll go see if I can buy it off iTunes.